A Husband’s Guide to Behave during “That Time of the Month”

“It’s that time of the month,” this is a phrase most men are familiar with because their better half is moody, irritable, and is a little tough to deal with.

Surprisingly, women hate it for the same reasons. In most cases, men don’t know any better or don’t have the means to deal with it properly.  This doesn’t mean they don’t value the relationship.

PMS Dilemma

At medplux, we are going where only a few men dare to. Let’s start with basics, PMS or Premenstrual Syndrome is the medical name given to time in the menstrual cycle when her hormones change the way she thinks, behaves and feels.  

Some of these symptoms can range from mild acne and exhaustion to depression, and sudden changes in mood. These changes are visible a week before and will continue for a while. Following, we are giving a few tips to help you behave better around her.   

Try to Learn the Pattern

If PMS affects her behavior, there is a pattern to it, and you need to learn it. Don’t expect her to have it all figured out. The fact is, they have coped with it alone for a while. Therefore they don’t know how the change will affect others.

Use your phone, an app and try to plot her cycles minding her emotional and physical symptoms (just don’t let her know). Breaking the ice won’t be easy for any party, it will be uneasy for her to let you know. So, you will have to be supportive.

Clear Communication

 Some aspects of PMS are perspective; it can be hers or yours.  Her mood has changed dramatically, but she’s not oversensitive. She can’t process daily issues like before, so excuse her if she is not effectively handling her responsibilities or duties.

This mood swing might make her edgy. Yes, she might irritate about issues now that she didn’t bother her before.  Worse, it can turn every communication a battle because of these underlying causes. So, you have to maintain your cool, and try to communicate effectively.

Give Her Some Space

Have you ever heard of a good distance to keep? Well, you better especially during “these days.” Everyone wants enough space for themselves. So don’t judge her if she doesn’t want any different. Don’t ask why they want the space, just give it. No need to judge her.

Advice for guys, stay out of this space but don’t go too far just in case you are needed for a rescue. This may sound selfish, but you are expected to be super sweet.

Mood Swings

Just because she is in her periods, it doesn’t mean she is always in a bad mood. PMS may give her a mood swing, but it doesn’t have to be bad in all cases. Put simply; she can be both the worst, and the best in mere moments. Therefore, one moment she will be super happy, while she can eat your brains the next moment.

Understand She’s Not Herself

This is important; men tend to take everything literally regardless of time. Therefore, if your wife says something like she never has money to buy something for herself, don’t freak out, or fall in line. Keep quiet and wait for at least an hour. Ask her again, and she has probably changed her mind.

 You might be surprised that she was making a big issue of it an hour ago, and now she doesn’t give a damn.  Well, say hello to her mood swings. She may say she is normal, but she doesn’t feel herself at the moment.  

You have to keep reminding yourself that the only solution to everything she brags is kept your cool. Keep your mouth shut, or just agree with her. You need to diffuse any argument before it escalates. Don’t address the issue right at the moment, whatever you do, don’t oppose her when she is bragging.

Don’t Expect Pleasantries

PMS can be severe from time to time. So don’t be surprised if she wasted her day doing nothing. Cramps can be a real challenge. So, don’t expect her to fulfill her duties as she normally does. This means you may get welcoming by an untidy home, messed kitchen, cold food, etc. 

Let it be if you want to do something. Take care of her load, or arrange someone else to do it. Don’t berate her for doing anything; it won’t help.

Do Simple Stuff

You don’t need to go out of your way and do something tremendous. Don’t run away, instead understand what’s going on. Don’t grit your teeth, and close your eyes waiting for this to get over. Instead, show you care, this doesn’t mean you are a slave.

Sure there is something you can do to help. Just maintain clear communication and ask her whether she needs anything. That’s it.